About dating a married man
Instinctively, most of you would go for the obvious answer: wrong.
Yes, yes I know, not all Muslim women are practicing and are 100% committed to everything their faith tells them to do; but this woman is.The little innocent doe in you (in most cases) braves itself up and walks curiously ahead. He’s a married man, and you know you don’t want to fall, but he’s such an emotional wreck, and the most striking part of it all is, he’s totally in love with you. Now, you warm up to him to shower him with happiness, and the next thing you know, you’re snogging him in hallways of movie theaters and bouncing off walls in your apartment, all in the purpose of making him a happier man! You’re dating a married man, and you want him all for yourself.You’re flattered to know he loves you, no man who’s so sweet has ever told you something like that. [Read: Cheating in a relationship] And unknown to you, you’re preparing yourself for the inevitable. The wife and the other woman The worst part of all this is that you’d never really want to be in this place, but somehow, you find yourself here. All of a sudden, you’re not just another nice girl.I suppose this can only apply to Muslim married men then. Sorry to disappoint married men from all other faiths who were thinking of doing the same thing. In fact, it was only yesterday that I Facebooked about it criticizing women who allow themselves to be in such a relationship.
So it was only very ironic to have this conversation on the following day. What do you think of Muslim and other married men and women who do?
But what I wasn’t prepared for even more is to actually feel that her explanation made sense.“Men are allowed to marry four women in Islam so technically he’s not cheating on his wife (as long as he’s not having sex with the other woman), this is like him trying to pick out a new wife,” she said.
If you believe in this perspective of Islam which allows a man to have four wives as long as he can treat them all equally on all levels, then you’re very likely to agree with the above quote.
Still, I don’t get it; if a man is unhappy in his marriage why is it so hard for him to walk away?
Trust me, even if children are involved in that relationship you do not want them growing up in such an unhealthy environment, with terrible influences in their lives: cheaters.
And it always starts with the same feelings of confusion, hesitation and attraction.