Dating for breast cancer survivors
Remember, going to a social event can be just that — a chance to get out and enjoy yourself, nothing more.
Ya, cancer can have that effect :) But a few days in, I received a message from a man who was caring, nice, & so funny.Be present – Ideally, this conversation should occur face-to-face so you can gauge your partner’s reaction. In addition to revealing your diagnosis, you should explain what was done, how you’re doing now, where you may have lack of sensation, reconstruction if any and anything else that may be important to a satisfying experience. Find your comfort level – It is often obvious to a partner if you are uncomfortable.These feelings will likely impact overall satisfaction for both you and your partner.Though many cancer patients have the same questions and concerns, no two relationships are the same.A younger person with goals of marriage and children — and potential mates who may have had little experience with serious illness — probably has different dating concerns than an older person, whose potential partners might very well be dealing with their own health issues.The reality is scars, stretch marks, birthmarks and other unique features help define us and make each of us imperfectly perfect.
By being open, you’re conveying your confidence not just to your potential partner, but also to yourself.
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A cancer diagnosis can shake people’s self-confidence, making them feel betrayed by their body or as if they don’t have as much control over their future as they once did, Ms. This loss of confidence can make it harder to pursue a relationship.
Start to rebuild your confidence by reminding yourself what you have to offer a potential partner and the traits you value most about yourself.
Dating is exciting — but having cancer or having had cancer in the past can make the search for a relationship seem daunting. “Dating was hard and scary even before you had cancer, and all of those fears are probably still there after the cancer,” says Memorial Sloan Kettering clinical social worker Barbara Golby.