He is dating a married woman
.” It has really changed my life, my way with women, and opened my eyes on dating. I noticed a woman there who was always staring at me.I’ve read it three times and have taken extensive notes. I struck up a conversation with her and found out that she’s married to a guy I knew in high school.
She was thinking about leaving her husband before she found out that she was pregnant and after only knowing me for a couple months. I need to know the truth, and you’re an expert in this area. Once a woman is pregnant with a child who belongs to someone else and you’re going to bed with her, you couldn’t be doing any more wrong. And wow, I didn’t realize that if Maddie cheats on her husband, she just might cheat on you! It’s impossible for us to stop communicating with each other either via text or phone.We tell each other we should stop talking, but a couple days go by and one of us will cave in.She's hesitant, though because—in her words—she doesn't want it to be amazing and know what's out there that she's missing. —Long-Distance Love Affair Dear LDLA, Here’s some A-plus advice from the school of Been There Done That, from which I received a degree in Egregiously Bad Decisions That I Am In Some Ways Still Paying For: Don’t do anything. In keeping with that theme, I would strongly suggest you not plan a sex tryst with this woman. Because you do not want to get involved in a messy divorce or custody battle, especially if her (potential) infidelity with you could be used as fodder against her.I'm giving her room and allowing her to come to terms on her own and will be supportive regardless of which decisions she makes. The sexy photos and videos you’ve shared may already put her at risk. If her husband is using their daughter as leverage to keep her around, then you never know what he might do if he found out about an affair.Then we’ll talk, realize that we shouldn’t be doing this because she wants to be a good person and not betray her husband, and I don’t want the bad karma, so we’ll stop talking. Doc, I know what you say in “The System” about women like Maddie, but I am just so in love with her.
I know that what she’s doing with her husband is not what I want in a companion. You have to be with a woman day and night for two years in order to really know her, and you and Maddie are just in la-la land at the gym!
If she does this sort of thing now, she might do it to me if we get together. You think it’s fate to fall in love with a married woman? Like my cousin Rabbi Love says, “There’s going to be a day of reckoning, my son.” You have to memorize “ Who set you up as God, Diego? Diego, your girlfriend has already betrayed her husband! You have to quit your gym and join another one somewhere else. And whenever she sends you a message, hit DELETE DELETE DELETE!
But it’s just so hard to let go of someone you care about so much. And when I say I fell in love with her, I fell hard. Like my Uncle Jethro Love says, “You’re lucky the guy didn’t pull out a shotgun and blow your head off! You should have called me for coaching before you started to fall for this married woman who’s not available and has a husband. In other words, the mess you’re in is going to get much messier! Do you really believe that goofy story Maddie told you? says, “Hey, she has two idiots in love with her.”But you protest that you can’t stop talking to each other. Are you going to marry Maddie and then raise her husband’s child, then have him come over and visit the kid? She took her clothes off with someone who wasn’t her husband. Marriage means that you can no longer fool around with anyone else on the face of the planet unless one of you dies! Diego, you’re playing with fire here and you don’t even realize it.
But what started as a 'few drinks' turned into a shot too many. We've made peace with our situation and accepted our unusual circumstances. I don't expect anyone to believe that what we share is actually true love.
The sex was great - I had no idea we were so sexually compatible! I never asked him to marry me because I wasn't sure what I felt for him. It's been four years since and he's still married to his wife and still in love with me. Just because I'm not the one he married, doesn't make me any less important!
It made no sense to stop just because he was going to marry someone else. And I didn't want to put him through that ordeal either. Well, I'm the woman he loves, the one he wants to be with, his soulmate.