Online dating not working for me
Now I’m doing both, and I feel stronger and am at a weight that I’m comfortable with. You could be putting in a lot of work but not having any success.
Still, the day after I turned 40, I decided to fire up an old profile and see what happened.It’s completely discouraging to try to evaluate whether to reach out to someone based on a few blurry photos and a corny bio. They claimed they simply “swiped right” on everyone and let the inbox chips fall where they may.It is also way too easy to be judgmental on the apps. Maybe this works for attractive, white dudes who work at tech start-ups. The moment I “swipe right” on someone, I am usually overcome with extreme dread."I'd call it a slow attrition of diminishing returns," Chelsea said about dating in NYC."I feel as if I make out with a guy and tell a guy I'd like to enjoy sexual congress, he should be stoked.Not so much even that I was single, but that I and what that implied. There are plenty of things I simply do not give a single solitary fuck about when it comes to what women my age are supposed to be doing. Just as there are movies on Netflix you might never stumble across in your bleary-eyed scrolling, there are plenty of people you might never see through some whim of programming code.
Moreover, there's the human factor; it's much easier to reject someone arbitrarily than it is to make an exception.
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Those exceptions take effort, and online dating is like Amazon Prime for sex.
(And love, ideally.) If it weren't for the algorithms, I could meet all of these people IRL and they wouldn't know I was 40 unless I showed them my birth certificate — ah, the very idea made me irate.
I had about a year-long run of being semi-seduced by men to have them hightail it, like scared little bunnies.