Problems with older men dating younger women
It was here I discovered Jack’s bleeding heart for animals, his passion for restoring vintage typewriters, and his talent for narrating dull car trips with an uncanny Sean Connery impersonation.
But a year later, Jack stumbled upon a blog I wrote and sought me out to offer me a job.“In many cases, the more progressive a woman’s friends, the more likely they are to raise their eyebrows at a big age gap.Often, it’s not that there is anything wrong with the love or desire between the individuals, but with the way it works in terms of placement in the world—she may get a lifestyle upgrade or an intellectually potent guy, but it often displaces the woman more than the man.”Case in point: Shortly after we started dating, I’m the one who quit my job.It felt thrilling to finally be working in a real office with real business cards and a real mentor.When I needed an apartment—tough to find in a resort town with sky-high rents—Jack offered me a room in his house, which meant we frequently worked late before coming home to split a bottle of wine.I was a graduate student studying journalism, and I knew Jack (who was on a date at the time) was the owner of a local publishing company.
Between taking an order and delivering a check, I pitched myself as a writer-for-hire.
A gig wasn’t in the cards—his company wasn’t hiring—and neither was a romance.
Jack would tell me later that, although he’d found me cute in an overly eager, naïve sort of way, I wasn’t his type.
“A woman can have a healthy relationship with her dad and still be looking for that father figure in a spouse.
Someone who can protect them and teach them—someone who has taken on the world, and who can help them take on the world, too.
He made the nurses giggle with slurred jokes about Snapchatting his experience in the endoscopy ward—funny, because Jack's never used Snapchat.“He’s such a hoot! Ten years ago, I couldn't have imagined settling down with a man 20 years my senior, “hoot” or not.