Sociological aspects of dating
This is important to understand that we subjectively judge ourselves as being more or less attractive; because we often limit our dating pool of eligibles to those we think are in our same category of beauty.If you are 6 foot tall as a man or 5 foot 8 as a woman, then you are slightly above average in height.
Those numbers should be very similar in 2010 when the Census is collected.Homogamy is the tendency for dates, mates, and spouses to pair off with someone of similar attraction, background, interests, and needs. They find and pair off with persons of similarity more than difference. Heterogamy is the dating or pairing of individuals with differences in traits.Have you ever heard the colloquial phrase, "opposites attract? He likes water skiing and I like camping and hiking…" I interrupted her and said, "So you both like ethnic food, music, and outdoors. All of us pair off with heterogamous and homogamous individuals with emphasis more on the latter than the former.I often ask my students how they met and when they tell their stories I help them to identify the geography that was involved in the process.Physical appearance is subjective and is defined differently for each individual.To help you better understand this let’s learn a few key principles that apply to the realistic processes we use to date and mate select.
When we see people we filter them as either being in or out of our pool of eligibles. We might include some because of tattoos and piercing or exclude some for the exact same physical traits.
The average woman is about 5 foot 4 inches tall and weighs about 144 pounds. Most of us tend to compare ourselves to averages or to others we know.
That’s how we come to define our personal level of attractiveness.
All of the principles discussed in this chapter applied to how my wife and I met, became friends, and chose to marry. Propenquity is the geographic closeness experienced by potential dates and mates.
It’s the proximity you might experience by: living in the same dorms or apartment buildings; going to the same university or college; working in the same place of employment; or belonging to the same religious group.
We dated, became engaged and married in the same year.