Steps in a relationship dating
If the relationship was intense, your baggage will probably include hate, grief, anger, fear, shame and other deeper emotions. Whatever the emotion is, open yourself to the emotion fully. They may feel like they have moved on, but what’s really happening is the issue has just become so deeply buried that it doesn’t cause any immediate reaction.
It took me 4 whole years before I was able to fully release myself from G’s shadow and our pseudo relationship.For myself, reading your responses and experiences have given me the invaluable opportunity to learn about you. All these require an ability to think consciously and to maintain a level of objectivity, which is hard because such matters are usually linked to deep sorrows and injured pride. Thinking you have moved on and having really moved on.Meanwhile, please enjoy the last part of this series. If it wasn’t for my experience with G, I’d think moving on is just a matter of putting the past behind us. In the former, you continue to live under the shadow of that person or relationship without realizing it.As you connect with these emotions, slowly let them go.Feel them, understand the source, then release them.Depending on how deep the emotional impact was, it might take several phases before you can really move on.
Think of it as a journey, rather than a binary Yes/No checkpoint.
To complete the cleansing process, all the dirt has to be cleansed.
To do so you need to first acknowledge and accept your feelings.
You think you have been liberated but truth is you are still living in a mental prison as you keep thinking about the person and past memories.
This prevents you from receiving new things in your life.
The length of time me and G were in close, active communication was about 2.5~3 years in total.